3 Lesson’s of Inspired Leadership for Parents

inspired leadership for parents

I’ve never spoke to a parent who didn’t want to see their kids excel at something; sports, creativity, education … we get excited when our kids get excited!  We want to set our children up for an an abundant life with all that encompasses health.  I have three ways that guarantee an explosion of creative and motivated excitement.  Let my lesson of defeat become your lesson in victory! 


Coaching my daughter’s softball team was an experience in leadership training.  If you can lead a child into their potential greatness, help them activate their strengths … you will have set in motion the wheels that will roll them through struggles of defeat and self-doubt.


 It was the 4th inning for my junior softball team, and they were getting their butts kicked.  In the league I coached, the last batter was allowed to swing until she hit the ball, which left for some lengthy at bat opportunities.  My team had the field and I lead them to defeat with poor leadership.


There was a runner on third base who would jump off the bag and taunt my catcher with every missed swing from the batter.  This runner would catapult herself half way to home plate and stare down my catcher.  Then, when the catcher would throw the ball back to the pitcher, the runner would turn and walk ever so jerkishly slowly back to 3rd base.  I wanted this girl OUT and I knew my Catcher couldn’t throw her out.


All my younger years of Catcher blood surged through my brain.  All I could see was a red bulls-eye; an inflamed cross hair on her arrogant strut. 


Calling a time out, I called my infield in.  The plan I laid out was this:  When the catcher throws the ball back to the pitcher, I want the pitcher to throw the ball to my third base fielder.  Tag this girl out!


It was so simple! … nope.


The plan went as instructed except my third base player missed the ball thrown to her. Not exactly her fault, the pitcher was so hyped up on adrenaline she threw it over her head … there was no back up, chaos erupted … and the arrogant runner got to advance home.  As if I couldn’t sink any lower for causing my girls embarrassment, I hear a parent say, “Well, that didn’t work.” Not only did my players suffer defeat of score board, they were defeated mentally. 


As a parental leader, know your kid’s strengths as well as their weaknesses.


The lessons I gained from this experience went on to teach me how to pull out the champion in children.  I’ve use these concepts with my children as well as those I’ve lead in artistic en-devours. 


  1. Identify and show them their strengths.

From that humiliating loss, I decided each player needed practical encouragement.  While we went through tactical training, I’d call out their best strengths.  Things like, “You’re so attentive”, “Wow! You run fast!”, “You always offer encouragement!”, “Girl! You gotta rocket for an arm!” … As I called out specific strengths, their desire to use them was multiplied exponentially.  


Likewise, when inspiring our children, call out their strengths and be specific.  Be honest with them, they can smell a fake compliment and please don’t use the same one over and over … let them see how attentive you are to their best qualities and talents.  I promise you, if you do this, you will see your child come alive with excitement and grow with their strengths.



  1. Their learning experience is not your battle.

They’re going to be times when you want to place an inflamed cross hair on the things that you know you could aim, fire and do away with … let them decide what is worth the risk. 


You are your child’s Coach, when they win, you win … not the opposite.  Many times I have wanted to take over a struggle or plan my daughters steps to prosperity … don’t.  As a Coach, we give training, we set up guidelines and give our best advice.  We help pull out their best and motivate when defeat is whispering.  Give them a strategy and step aside, let them win and let them have all the credit!



  1. Know the rules.

This is where I missed the mark greatly in that softball game.  I didn’t know one, very important rule.  The runner on 3rd base was not allowed to steal home.  She could have ballerina danced her way down that base line and still would not have been able to steal home. 


As parents, coaches and leaders in our home, we need to know the rules we play by.  Our greatest game book is the Word of God.  If you’re not playing by the rules, defeat is knocking at your door.  His rules of value and purpose are the foundation of every champion.  Your kids are co-laborers of His greatness with all they seek out to conquer … lead them with Father’s help.


Did you see a lesson in my softball story?  I’d love to hear them!  Post your comment so others can continue Leading Inspired!





If you’re in need of some more inspired parenting lessons … be encouraged here:

Letting Love Be Bigger Than Fears

Parenting ~ The Countdown of Transferring


August 2, 2017