We all crave validation. Validation is a natural and human need we all have.
To validate means to confirm, support, or recognize something. When other people validate what we do and believe, we feel encouraged and get a sense of belonging that other people think and act like us.
Being validated by another empowers our sense of self-worth – we feel important, needed, and accepted.
What happens if the validation we crave isn’t given?
If you crave validation and you’re not given it – you’ll begin to question your work, your abilities, and or, your judgement. This will lead you toward feelings of rejection, fear of failure, being unqualified, it may cripple your confidence and lead to anxiety over being judged by another. Or you may begin to be self-critical of yourself.
Those thoughts will lead to behaviors such as risk avoidance, shyness, insecurity, unassertiveness, procrastination – or the opposite, striving to prove yourself or over working tendencies.
Is the need for validation stopping you? If so, read and ponder the next line …
The need for validation gives the opinion of another more power than your own acceptance of yourself.
Empower a healthy opinion of yourself – then you’ll see validation as a byproduct of enjoying and growing in who you are and what you offer.
When unhealthy thoughts, emotions, or behaviors try to sneak in … take captive the thought (as previously taught). Replace the unhealthy narrative with a healthy one –
“I am loved and accepted by Christ. For this reason, I can give myself room to grow, learn, and accept my failures and victories with a perspective of acceptance of myself.”
Guiding scriptures: 2 Corinthians 13:5, 1 Corinthians 4:3, Galatians 6:4, Psalm 139
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